The dynamics of a healthy relationship work best when each partner maintains an open intent about loving themselves and each other. Though not all days are sunshine and rainbows, each union feels natural, teasing, having mutual contentment but never having to feel overextended by any one party to please the other. In the extended theory for Maslow's hierarchy of needs, he included his observations of humans' innate curiosity beyond their basic needs. He termed them “physiological”, “safety”, “love and belonging”, "esteem”, and “self-actualisation”. These are the stages human beings are generally motivated to move through.
So a certain pairing has been decisively concluded this time. Not to make light of a situation that may have been very dear to you, but an ending is an ending. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects that led to the demise of this relationship, moving forward is the next logical step. It’s easier said than done, that’s true, but however difficult it will be, moving forward helps us heal and face the unknown future. To start to heal, we first need to pinpoint the reasons or hurdles that are in the way of your recovery.
Here’s a buzzword to carry you through any foreign experience: openness. An open mind lays your way to new discoveries. So decide today you will open yourself up a little and meet one stranger per outing. When I say stranger, I don't mean jump the next casual stroller at the intersection. It can be someone you haven't been formally introduced to through your current network of family, friends and colleagues. Perhaps you’ve been invited to regular media gatherings and have not attended one yet? Get with the programme and gift your smiles to likeminded individuals.