Have you recently met someone who is extremely compatible but you decided not to pursue her because she is a single mum?
In this modern world where societal norms are rapidly changing, we believe that you can make her circumstances work to your advantage if you are willing to alter your perspective.
Single mums are strong individuals whose past experiences and personal history have given them a unique perspective of life. This itself is a remarkable quality to have in your future partner.
Here is what you should know before dating a single mum and how to take your relationship from good to great.
Her Life Centers around Her Children
Her child/children will be her top most priority. The faster you accept this fact, the easier it will be for both of you. Her child/children may even have a say in her dating and relationship choices. It is all right. Respecting the bond she shares with her children is important. After all, they have been in her life longer than you have. She needs to be able to navigate through the relationship to establish her own comfort level along with that of her child/children. Supporting her commitment to her child/children will further strengthen your relationship with her.
Good things take time.
Give time to nurture and allow your relationship to develop. Taking baby steps in the relationship and giving her ample space to make her own decisions will showcase your maturity and understanding. Your instincts might tempt you to take action like moving in together or wanting to be more involved with her child/children but don’t rush! Take it easy. Focus on building trust before you take your relationship to the next level.
Honesty is the Best Policy
Knowing the kind of commitment you are willing to give and what you want in return paves the way for a smoother relationship. It helps if you are clear about your relationship goals. Do you want a casual fling or a long-term partnership? Is marriage on the table? Do you see yourself co-parenting? Most single mums are quite clear about what they want. It is best to be honest and communicate clearly as your relationship progresses. In fact, being upfront about your feelings and goals will very well bring you closer to her.
Align Your Expectations with Her Reality
Unlike a typical single, when dating a single mum, it’s important to manage your expectations. As much as she would like to watch a movie or have dinner with you, the reality is that most of her time and energy goes into caring for her children. She may not get to see you as often as you might like. That does not mean she doesn’t want to be with you.
Keep a look out for other gestures which indicate her feelings for you. For example, how punctual she is on every date or how she gives you her undivided attention during a date.
It may seem like there are a lot of differences but at the end of the day, we are all more alike than different. Whether someone is single or a single mum, as humans we all crave for a deep connection and strong relationships. Don’t let your presumptions get in the way of truly getting to know someone worthy of you.