One of the things in life that the majority of people have in common in life is that we all want to find love. Of course, love can come in many forms, such as friends, family and pets – but the one that we perhaps put the most pressure on is finding romantic love. Many of us worry, at least at some stage in life, that we may never find romantic love, and that we will be single for the rest of our lives. For some, this might be a mild worry, or something that a person thinks about once and then is able to let go of. For others, however, it can become a big concern that is harder to let go of, and this makes sense given the pressure we are under by society to form long-term romantic and monogamous relationships. However big your worry about not finding that long term relationship, the most important thing to remember is to stay positive about the situation! This article will go into some of the top tips for those who worry about not finding romantic love.
Don’t place too much focus on finding ‘the one’
We see it a lot in romantic films and books, the notion that we all have one person who we are supposed to be with for the rest of our lives, it’s just a case of finding them. However, this kind of belief can actually do just the opposite when you are trying to meet someone – it can limit your options and lead you down the dangerous path of finding reasons not to be with someone. What to focus on instead is that there could be many people in life that you are able to love and be happy with, focus on how the person makes you feel rather than whether you think they might be ‘the one’.
Focus on yourself
Often part of the problem with finding love is that we are simply putting too much pressure on the situation. When all we think about is falling in love, every day where we don’t find it feels like a century. Rather than feeling that it is a negative that you’ve been single another day, focus on the positives and use the time to become the best version of yourself. Not only does this make being single far more enjoyable, but it also means that when the right person does come along you are offering the best you!
Don’t lower your standards
It can be frustrating when you’re single and want to be in a relationship, but can never seem to find the right person, but it is important that your frustration does not lead you to make the common mistake of lowering your standards, simply because you want to be with someone. It is important that you keep your worth in mind; you deserve to be treated well, and you shouldn’t settle for less.
You are deserving of love
Do not let your singleness make you feel like you do not deserve love. The reality is that you are just as deserving of love as anyone else, and realizing this is often instrumental in helping us to find it! When we are constantly thinking ‘I don’t deserve love’, we start to believe it, and might not even notice when it passes us by! Believing we are deserving of something means we are able to recognize when we might be able to have it, and that is essential in beginning a relationship.
The moral of the story
The takeaway here is that you shouldn’t worry too much about the prospect of finding love. The world is full of amazing people when you put yourself out there, so don’t be afraid to go and see what’s on offer! At the end of the day, you are complete whether you have a romantic partner or not, so be sure to focus on yourself and the rest will come!