When it comes to sex, men are more straight forward about it. They want to get it on at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it. They just want to “do it like they do on the Discovery Channel”. It sounds like a lot of fun, doesn’t it? Why can’t we women have the same strength in desires and fulfil them as easily? A Florida State University expert surveyed the sex drives of men and women and intimated that women’s libidos are more “fluid”, meaning their desires are more sensitive to nuances in their environment and context. So you aren’t getting enough of bed-minton, we know just how to raise the activity levels in your weekly agenda!
Scrap the routine
After a couple gets past the honeymoon period, the rhythm can somewhat stutter to a halt. Stagnant grounds is bad breeding for good romance. There can be no upward trajectory after landing in a pit, unless you’re Superman. Try for unpredictability. Swap date nights on a whim, surprise him with a Ferrero Rocher chocolate bouquet or gift an eclectic flower bouquet to her. Flowers and chocolates? Cliché as they may seem, they always seem to coax that megawatt grin from its recipients. Impatient to get down to business? Play hooky from work and get re-acquainted with the more primal meaning of an afternoon delight…
Gather with friends or double date
The whole point is to re-discover each other’s playfulness when interacting with friends. A friendly banter with a different person shows another side to you. A lighter, teasing personality that is often in contrast to perfunctory conversation. Recap the highlights of the evening, gossip like old men and women over the weather, reenact funny scenarios if you want! You’ll have much more fun together as a couple, and also invest that much more into long term friendships.
A guy’s view on dating initiative
When asked for a solution to reviving sex in a relationship, our dear friend Jon mansplained, “Ladies usually do not initiate date night and intimacy. The lady can always ask her guy out to dinner at a fancy restaurant, just because. Why wait for an occasion?” We get it. Romance is a two-way street and we ladies have always enjoyed the privilege of being courted and mollycoddled – the typical John Cusack to Ione Skye.
Alright, we’ll bite. We suppose it isn’t such a hardship to switch places. Show a little more love to the menfolk and let the candid moments gather momentum from new experiences. Once predictability is taken out of the equation, you’ll welcome back the same old gleam in his eye and then he’ll initiate more action… and instant gratification.