Conflicts are a part and parcel of any close relationship. As humans, it’s an inherent need to bond and form healthy relationships with our family members, colleagues and romantic partners.
However, as you progress in your relationships, there are bound to be conflicts. Most people are averse to conflicts, it causes anxiety and a general feeling of doom. But contrary to popular belief, conflicts can actually be good opportunities to grow.
Think outside the box.
Conflicts tend to happen at the most unexpected and inconvenient time. You may feel completely blindsided when this happens. However, it is good to take a moment to stop and think” You can always speak to a close friend or even google it to read up on how others have tackled a similar situation. The key is being open to trying new and creative solutions.
“ We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” (Albert Einstein)
Tackle the small before it grows big.
Many times, there may be a tendency to bottle up our issues and shrug it off as ‘just a small thing’. You might decide to keep it to yourself initially, leaving your partner completely unaware of your true feelings but what happens then if they constantly repeat the same mistake? Life has a way of bringing forward unresolved conflicts again and again. Eventually, it will cause an explosion. Why not resolve conflicts when it is smaller and easier to manage? It is better to sit with your partner and express your feelings without getting personal. Do not allow small issues to fester and blow out of proportion
Embrace healthy arguments.
Constructive fighting and healthy arguments are actually good for your relationship because it actually helps you to understand your partner better. These disagreements make room for discussions which lead to a deeper connection. Expressing yourself freely and listening to your partner will help to increase confidence in your own abilities to manage conflicts as an individual and as a couple. Arguments (in a healthy and respectful manner) will not only strengthen your relationship, it will also increase your trust in each other.
Expand your knowledge to widen your perspective.
It’s important to remember that we all come from different backgrounds and upbringing. What feels normal to you may not be for your partner. How you view the world, your past experiences and your perception of people, has an immense influence on your attitude, your mood and ultimately the energy you put into your life and relationship. Be open to new experiences, to new knowledge and a wider perspective, this will make you a better problem- solver and ultimately, a better human being and partner.
“Your perspective is always limited by how much you know. Expand your knowledge and you will transform your mind.” (Bruce H. Lipton)